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Radical Women Meeting and dinner tonight! Marriage Is Not Enough - With Guest Speakers: Beck, Anita O'Shea and Poonam

2008-06-26T23:31:31Z

Thursday, June 26th, 7pm
Marriage is Not Enough: Radical Queers Take Back the Movement. Celebrate the legalization of same-sex-marriage and commemorate the militancy of the drag queens of color who stood up to the police during the 1969 Stonewall rebellion. Featuring: Beck, a radical queer youth worker seeking to make ENDA inclusive; Poonam, board member of Trikone, the Bay Area’s S. Asian LGBT organization; and Anita O’Shea, a queer leader in Radical Women and Bay Area Coalition for Our Reproductive Rights. They will speak on the need to stop the sellouts of poor and working class issues by mainstream LGBT leaders and the necessity of building a radical movement that fights for true equality and not just acceptance. Bring your ideas and opinions!

Come early for a fabulous summer buffet, with vegetarian option, available at 6:15 p.m. for a $7.00 donation. This meeting takes place at New Valencia Hall, 625 Larkin Street, Suite 202, San Francisco. (The office is located five blocks from the Civic Center BART station, and on the #19 and #31 Muni bus lines.)

Everyone is welcome! For more information, call 415-864-1278, or email CalRadicalWomen@yahoo.com.

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Gay Marriage: The Financial Impact on California

2008-06-13T20:10:10Z

Okay, surely I and my friends are not the only people who have thought about this. California is going to be one of a very few number of states in the US where a gay couple can get married, AND we do not have a residency requirement. I foresee a lot of money flowing into our state, as people from all over the country come here to get married. They are going to spend money on transportation, lodging, food, and all kinds of things. Some people are going to have the wedding they've always wanted, and will be inviting friends and family members to the wedding. A lot of people are going to combine this with a vacation, and spend even more money here.

I am completely in favor of gay marriage because I support equality, but for people who don't, have you thought about the financial possibilities? Gay people's money is just as green as everyone else's!

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Camp Beaverton hits the playa 2008: Our first Beaver Call of the year!

2008-06-12T23:21:05Z

Greetings, Beavers and friends!

Camp Beaverton is the playa's home for queer women and allies. Last year was Camp Beaverton's inaugural Burn. It was wildly successful and this year we'd like to see it grow and thrive. If you'd like to learn more about last year's burn, check out our tribe. If you'd like to participate in THIS year's burn, read on!

I'm Allison- the orange-haired Camp Counselor from last year's burn. I'll be helping organize our pre-playa planning this year, starting with our Beaver Calls. If you haven't been checking in on Tribe.net lately, now is the time to do so. We've already started some lively discussions about our presence on the playa, our intentions for this year's burn, and semantics about fundraising and shade structures. Your opinions are invaluable, so please pop on over to tribes.tribe.net/campbeaverton to get in on the action. As soon as Tribe gets with the program, I'll be taking over as moderator for the tribe. In the meantime, feel free to continue to contact last year's moderator Reid or me on the site. Or you can email me directly at this addy.

Our first organizational call will be happening on Wednesday, June 18th at 6pm Pacific Time/ 9pm Eastern Time.

You and anyone who may be interested in being involved with Camp Beaverton is invited to attend. Please RSVP on the Tribe (tribes.tribe.net/campbeaverton).

Call Date: Wednesday, June 18th
Conference Start Time: 9:00 PM New York time / 6:00 PM Los Angeles time
Dial-in Number to call: 1-309-946-5100
Participant Access Code: 81567# (hit pound after entering in the access code)

QUESTIONS? Leave me a Tribe message, or an email me at allison.moon(at)gmail.com

On the agenda for this call:

1. A brief history of Camp Beaverton and what we'd like to create for this year's burn
2. The role of Camp Beaverton within our parent camp of FreedomCommunity (tribes.tribe.net/freedomcommunityburns)
3. The Beaver Den and additional shade structures.
4. Fundraising
5. Events and activities.
6. Leadership positions and ways to get involved
7. Questions

This is the first in a series of calls to help manifest powerfully and playfully our queer oasis in Black Rock City this year.
Last year's burn and inaugural year for Camp Beaverton blew my panties off (if I had been wearing panties, that is). I would love to see us inspire even more playful, queer, totally rad energy this year. Please come be a part of it! And please FWD this to your friends who might be interested in what we're up to!
Looking forward to speaking with you all on the 18th...

Dusty tails,
~Allison

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Congradulations

2008-06-05T15:03:01Z

Congradulations to all of my S,F. friends heading down to city hall June 15th. I hope Illinois catches up sometime in the near future.

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novel release

2008-06-04T04:24:59Z

Hi

I'm thrilled to announce the release of my first lesbian novel "Made For You" by a tiny, independent publishing house based in Wisconsin, Alpha World Press.

Please check it out if you have time and inclination.

I'm always happy to talk shop with writers and readers, so I hope to hear from you.

Cheers and thank you!

Best,

Geneva

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Marriage

2008-05-24T14:25:25Z

We are so unused to being able to have that commitment on paper- that makes it real in legal terms and makes you question your commitment. It will be interesting to see what happens to couples when it boils down to- "really" being married. How many couples will make it stick? How many couples will be put to the test when one wants it and the other decides they arent sure.

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At the office question...

2008-05-09T15:37:31Z

I work as an executive (actually I work for the EVP and CEO directly. Anyway, I am "out" and have been since I started. My bosses are very old school and one is in his 60's the other in his 50's (I am in my late 30's). They are both exceptional leaders and I totally respect their work and accomplishments. One thing I noticed about working for them is that once they new I was a dyke there was like this total level of "stuff" that didn't get in the way. I have found that men either in the workplace or elsewhere once they accept the fact they don’t have a chance they kind of let their guard down a bit. I get to see more of the real them because that whole "impressing" the opposite sex thing doesn't get in the way. This is the case with my current two bosses and one of the reasons I think they like me so much. They feel much more relaxed and open to telling off color jokes and that sort of thing that I know they would NEVER say around a hetro woman. I can tell they are still not as open as might be with a guy, but for the most part we get along well. I also noticed that compared to other women in the company, they are not as afraid to really let me have it if they are angry and they give me slack when I need to blow some steam also.

In my last company I was a VP and all my supervisors (including the CEO) were women. Although we all became good friends, I knew a few of them were uncomfortable with the whole lesbian thing and that sometimes did get in the way of business.

I have found it interesting in that I would expect that working with all men would be tougher than it was with all women, but to be honest, the men are much easier for the most part.

Anyone else ever been in this situation?

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Our First Place

2008-05-08T04:32:34Z

We put the key in the door of our first home and crossed the threshold hand in hand. We had just come from the closing and the house was officially ours, ALL 2,200 square feet of mid-century Ranch amortized at 6.34% for the next 30 years of it. For a couple of dykes, buying a house together is the closest sort of commitment you can get to getting married. Sabrina was feeling sentimental, going through each room and dreaming out loud of what our lives were going to be like; the Virgo in me was feeling overwhelmed and anxious at the amount of unpacking we had to do just to get to our toothbrushes, towels, and dishes.

I have to confess, when I was watching her unpack, with her red and white scarf tied around her head and her favorite t-shirt with a big ole rainbow on it, I had to marvel at her beauty, both inside and out. She was so calm, so grounding for me. She’d made coming out to my family not easy, but tolerable. She made all the gross and offensive comments from men who thought they could “change me with their super dicks” bearable. She just fits me perfectly in every way. We’ve been together for four years. That’s equivalent to 16 heterosexual years for a lesbian couple and we’ve been together longer than all of our gay friends, both male and female, have ever been in a relationship combined.

I’d just about finished getting the bed frame up when I heard our doorbell ring for the first time. I ran downstairs to see who it could be and I saw Sabrina paying a delivery guy for some takeout food. She’d set up a makeshift table in the living room by taking one of our moving boxes and putting a sheet over it and she decorated it with flowers from our garden in a jar from the garage and some candles she got from who knows where. “Come and get it,” she said, as we sat down on the floor to dine on some Chinese food on the first night of the rest of our lives together.

I was overwhelmed with the feelings of love I had for this woman. “You know, I adore you, right?”

She looked at me and half-laughed. “Of course I do. And I love you too.”

“No,” I said, “I adore you. You mean the world to me. I don’t even want to think what my life would be like without you. I can’t even imagine who I would be without you.” I started to get really emotional and the words got choked up in my throat. She crawled over to my side and I put my head on her shoulder. She kissed the top of my forehead and I reached up to kiss her. Her tongue found mine and we shared an intimate kiss that grew more passionate with each passing tick of the clock. I lay back on the living room floor and she climbed on top of me, pressing her body into mine.

“Mmmm, we don’t have any curtains up yet . . . . we should . .. Stop,” I managed to say.
True to her rebellious nature, she said, “I don’t give a fuck. This is OUR house,” with heavy emphasis on the word our, and if I want to make love to my wife, and people want to watch, then so fucking be it.” With that, she slid her hand between my legs and pressed her palm against my mound. My body responded before my common sense could and I was pulling her t-shirt over her head while she was freeing me from the restrictions of my clothing.

We made love, on the floor, the very first night in our brand new home. Reclining back on an overstuffed pillow, I spread my legs and she made a dessert out of my breasts, licking and sucking my hardened nipples until I was begging her to go down on me. She kissed her way down my stomach and spread my legs. Taking her fingers, she spread the lips of my pussy and softly, gently, licked my clit until I was squirming and moaning and holding her mouth to my wet slit, wrapping my legs around her head and demanding that she let me cum in her mouth. She worked her tongue up inside me and her fingers found my asshole. I was cursing and screaming and telling her how good she made me feel and thankful we weren’t in our old, tiny one bedroom apartment with thin walls.

I turned over and got up on my knees and she alternated between driving her tongue in my pussy and my ass, causing me to reach back and spread my asscheeks wider so she could do her magic. She licked me from my clit to my spine and back again and I was grinding my pussy all over her face. She playfully slapped my ass and warned me that if I didn’t hold still that she was going to stop. Like hell she was going to stop. She wanted my cum and she wasn’t going to stop until I was flowing all over her.

She did a Bruce Lee sort of move and flipped around until her pussy was against mine. I could feel the heat of her warm cunt and the wetness of her slippery folds. She scissored her legs with mine and started bumping and grinding away, clit to clit. It was like our pussies were French kissing. I could feel the first signs of my orgasm approaching and I begged her to stop. I wanted to make love to her, to eat her, to enjoy every inch of her body first. She didn’t listen and she kept taunting me, teasing me, telling me to cum. “Give me that cum baby. Bathe me in your sweet honey. That’s it, squirt all over Mami. Oh yeah, baby, fuck me with that hard clit of yours. “

That sent me over the edge and I exploded. We curled up in each other’s arms and lay there for a while, just basking in the glow. I stroked her hair and intertwined my brown fingers with hers. She said, “We’ve christened one room, just think, we have six more to go.”

Copyright 2008 AfroerotiK

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Agostina Laneri from Bravo

2008-05-07T18:30:47Z

Hosted By: Briana Stockton & Holly J.D.

Special Guest: Agostina Laneri from Bravo TV's "Workout"
& "Pumkin" from VH1's Flavor of Love!

When: Saturday, May 17th (& every 3rd Saturday of the Month, thereafter)
from 10:00 PM to 2:00 AM

Where: The Cat Club
1190 Folsom @ 8th
San Francisco, CA 94101

Description:
Briana Stockton & Holly J.D.

DJ's Sysko & Jay-R
Guest DJ Movtive &
Guest DJ Eruption
Hottest 80's & Hip Hop
$7 before 11 & $10 after

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NYC Dyke Coffee Shops?

2008-04-05T21:43:02Z

I'm going to be in NYC working for a few days and am wondering if there are any great cafe's that have wi-fi and a good population of dykes. I'm fairly certain I can navigate the city okay, but any suggestions are welcome!

Thanks!

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womens weekend in guerneville 5.15-5.18

2008-03-17T23:25:44Z

hey! womens weekend is may 15-18 a the russian river in guerneville. it is usually a good time but different people are organizing it this year and i am super excited! i am going to be djing a couple of gigs and really want to get some cool people to come play with us out at the river in the country! it is so beautiful out there and there are a lot of places to rent and campgrounds. be sure to reserve lodging now because it gets filled up quick. there is info about the event here- www.myspace.com/russianriv...mensweekend

i love electronica as well as almost every other genre so if you plan on coming, let me know what you like to listen to so i can make sure to play some.

lets dance and create something special!!!

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new

2008-02-27T15:13:44Z

hey my name is lee and im a boi who lives in san jose ca. im 23 and looking for friends and maybe more.

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Call for Queer, Sensual Performers!

2008-02-08T22:19:33Z

International Ms Leather (IMsL) 2008 presents: "Seduction" -- An evening of burlesque, strip tease, lap dancing, drag, and more!

Thursday, May 1st, 2008
9 p.m. - 1 a.m.
Holiday Inn, Golden Gateway
San Francisco, CA

Formerly known as the "Lap Dance-a-Thon," this year's "Seduction" will be an evening of sensual entertainment targeted to raise money for IMsL's chosen charities as well as the title travel funds.

We're currently seeking the following fun and sexy types of performance acts to donate their talent to the cause:

Sensual Dance Troupes
Erotic Strip Tease
Burlesque Acts
Drag Kings
Drag Queens
Belly Dancers
Go-Go Boys, Bois, and Girls
Lap Dancers
????????

If you'd like to donate your time and passion to this exciting and sensual event (as a performer or a volunteer), please contact Jazz at: slave_jazz at yahoo dot com (email address edited to avoid spam bots) with the subject line: "Seduction". Please include a description of the type of performance you can offer, how many numbers you'd like to do (with an approximate length of each), and a brief resume of your performance experience (venues in which you've performed) and/or references.

Please note: we will not be able to include fire performances or full nudity; if you have any questions about this policy, please don't hesitate to ask!

And please don't hesitate to pass the word on to appropriate forums!

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so, what do YOU do when you get called "sir"?

2008-02-04T17:27:40Z

Happens to me all the time. And, funny enough, it's mostly women that do it, although sometimes it's a man. The best part about it is that I have really huge tits. So if I turn around they get pretty embarassed. But that's not my fucking problem! And they all act like I oughta somehow ... fix it for them. I get kinda sick of the whole thing. What do other people do?

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Is the L Word bad for our "image"

2007-11-25T04:17:06Z

Ok so I wonder is the L Word good for Lesbians? Ack! Should I be shot? Well hear me out 1st....

1st off I watch the show, and I am pleased that, at last there is a show about Lesbians on TV....which doesn't stereotype us....or is the L Word creating a new lesbian stereotype? Now Lesbians are glamorous, trendy, makeup wearing power dykes...so does this new image actually represent who you/we are as Lesbians/Dykes? Are younger women now "growing up" with an image of what it means to be a Lesbian...AKA...you need to be like a chick on the L Word....are you a Bette, a Shane, an Alice, a Jenny, whoever, or egads what if you are none of the women shown on the program....

And what type of attitudes will this program instill in new generations of lesbians? That it's ok to be a promiscuous player like Shane, who never once has mentioned safe sex? No... we are supposed to rack up conquest points on the "Chart"....and if we don't...what are we...losers again? So, I guess my question is do you feel that the L Word represents who you are? Or, is it just good old entertainment?

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Naughty Gifts for Naughty Girls

2007-11-24T01:06:57Z

WearablePorn.com

Naughty Gifts for Naughty Girls

Original fine art bondage & erotica t-shirts, posters, framed prints, greeting cards and more.

http://www.wearableporn.com

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Difficulties in love

2007-11-12T23:08:16Z

Does anyone else here have problems meeting other women? Sometimes i feel like the only queer I know NOT hooking up or dating. It just gets me down. I've been trying to find a girlfriend to no avail. Any advice on this? I tend to be too shy to just walk up and talk to strangers, I detest using "lines", and my internet forays, usually very productive, are not so productive of late. I'm becoming a bit frustrated.

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new forum for GLBT martial artists!

2007-10-16T05:39:51Z

Hi all,

just letting you know about a new forum i've created for GLBT martial artists on Tribe... it's Aussie based, but i'm not that fussed about that... it's open to all to share. CMA, Karate, Aikido, TKD, Arnis, BBJ, Boxing, etc, etc. Training tips, meet-ups, or just share yr experience and passion.

http://tribes.tribe.net/glbtmartialartsaustralia

Look forward to seeing you there!

~megan

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female ejaculation

2007-09-21T01:59:22Z

How often does it happen?
Are people generally shocked by it?
Are all women capable of it?

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Dated A Psycho Lesbian?

2007-07-22T16:41:18Z

I'm just curious if anyone out there has ever dated someone they would term "A Psycho Lesbian"? This is the woman you date who seems normal at first and then ends up making your life a living hell! Horror stories anyone?

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Looking for a Butch Bottom

2007-07-10T07:22:03Z

I am a top and femme. If you are interested get in touch.

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The Reality of a Lesbian Marriage...

2007-07-03T03:17:03Z

The ugly reality of "gay marriage"

My girlfriend and I are holding a “commitment ceremony”, Sept. 22, 2007, in Pennsylvania, which is a DOMA state. As far as we are concerned, we will be married, but PA law views me as a legal stranger whom my girlfriend allows to live in her house. She holds an executive level position at a global corporation that does not offer domestic partner benefits; I am self-employed.

We have engaged the services of a sympathetic lawyer to draft all sorts of documents designed to establish and protect our rights to one another’s life as much as possible. The cost is well beyond the fee for a marriage license. To add insult to injustice, the local government is demanding payment for one-half of the property taxes when we file a new deed to the house with both of our names on it. The 2007 property taxes have been paid in full but because we are not legally recognized as being related, I have to pay again, to the tune of $4,000.00! If we were married, the filing fee for the deed would be $42.50 with no further property taxes due.

Deed, wills, medical directives, living wills, home and vehicle insurances, retirement funds, the list goes on for the amount of paperwork we have to draft, re-write or otherwise review just to somewhat protect ourselves from the government or mal-intentioned relatives is just ridiculous!

The part that strikes me as funny is that none of the vendors we have retained to make our ceremony happen has even batted an eye at us being a lesbian couple. Money is money! If the checks clear, the cake will be delivered and our guests will be served, the flowers will be delivered and the venue is ours for the night. I believe in rewarding good behavior, so I have already sent thank you notes to a few of our vendors for treating us with respect and will send notes to the rest of the vendors after the event if warranted.

That’s my little story as to why it is vitally important to keep pushing for equality for all of us.

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Research on Bisexuality - Participants Needed

2007-05-30T03:20:09Z

Are you a bisexual female and at least 18 years old?

- You are invited to participate in an anonymous
online survey concerning sexuality and feelings.

- This research is being conducted by a graduate
student at the California School of Professional
Psychology/Alliant International University.

- Participation will take approximately 60 to 70
minutes

- All participants will be entered in a lottery for a
chance to win one of two raffle prizes for $100

- If you are interested, go to
http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=165663204675

- For more information or questions email:
bisexualityresearch@yahoo.com

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3DA Women - Women/Womyn that Do not Drink a Drop of Alcohol

2007-05-22T18:37:40Z

I decided that I would gather those that wish to make friends amongs people that do not drink.

Join.

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NYC LGBT PRIDE EVENTS- clarification for the online community

2007-05-22T15:24:01Z

New York City’s Mayor’s Office and the Community Assistance Unity have denied Heritage of Pride a permit for the re-envisioned PRIDEfest, our annual street festival, however the other annual Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Pride events WILL proceed as planned.

Below is a list of events, including the date and times of each. Please visit our website, Hopinc.org, for more information.

THE RALLY
Bryant Park
42nd Street and 6th Avenue
Sunday, June 17th, 2007
2:00pm - 6:00pm

RAPTURE: A WOMEN’S DANCE
Pier 54 (13th Street @ the Hudson River)
In the Hudson River Park
Saturday, June 23rd, 2007
6:00pm - 11:00pm

THE MARCH
5th Avenue and 52nd Street to Christopher Street and Greenwich Street
Sunday, June 24th, 2007
12:00pm - End
Moment of Silence: 2:00pm

DANCE 21: THE DANCE ON THE PIER
Pier 54 (13th Street @ the Hudson River)
In the Hudson River Park
Sunday, June 24th, 2007
4:00pm - 11:00pm

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Dykes with a few years behind them ...

2007-05-20T19:35:12Z

C'mon over to the Queers Over 40 tribe. Please?

http://tribes.tribe.net/a68e5908-1bdc-48bc-852e-f0473714068c

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Research on Bisexuality and Well-Being

2007-05-15T06:37:47Z

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New to Tribe

2007-03-26T02:07:43Z

My name is Ami and I just started a new tribe for us who love diffrently. No judgement. Just come and talk about anything.
http://tribes.tribe.net/diffrentkindoflove

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queercore

2007-03-22T12:59:34Z

Any recommendations on harder to find queercore bands? looking to hear something new!

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Dyke Food ???

2007-03-10T00:43:16Z

Hi ! this is my 1st poting, from Tokyo, i'm Japanese dyke HELLO!
anyway I'm seriously thinking about "dyke food" because....
I'm organizing the weekly dining bar for lesbians in Tokyo, cooking some original foods.
Then I thought, it can be "dyke food" and if it's gonna be a new trend, would be kool isn't it?
Um, I said to my friends sometimes, then I got offer to write about it to the queer news letter.
oh my got!!! it's a kind of hard job to do it alone yeah? I need more opinions from more dykes. please please leet me know what is your favorit food dykes????

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lesbian bed death, prevention thereof

2007-02-22T20:13:53Z

So, we have a good strong relationship, including a passionate sex life. We've lived together for about 3 years now, and are quite committed to staying together. It's a bit less exciting than it was, to be sure; in some ways that's a good thing (there are some kinds of excitement you can live better without).

She wants to know what we can do to keep the bedroom exciting. We've always talked about everything; some of it in writing or by e-mail or whatever, if it seems too hard to actually use words face to face. I can see she needs to know that. One of our friends says relationship problems come in two broad categories: money, and some variation on "what do you mean you can't read my mind?" So expecting her to read my mind (or my body) is not really fair.

Being somewhat genderqueer in addition to being in love with a like-bodied person, I have a bit of a problem. The things I like the best involve body parts that aren't really there, some of them hers, some of them mine. So describing what's going on physically (which I can do, though it's kinda clinical) doesn't really communicate what I want to say.

Suggestions? Advice? How d'you keep your lovers coming back for another handful or tongue-lashing?

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Family friendly music festivals/womyns festivals

2007-02-12T15:30:22Z

There aren't any that close (that I can find) to me. Now that we have a young child (and adoption that isn't finalized) I don't want to travel too far. I think it would be nice to have some sort of small musical event locally. I wonder what it would entail ($$) and how many people would truly be interested should I decided to take on this venture.....hhmmmm....

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Blasphemy Ball - Saturday March 10th w/ PURE Cirkus!

2007-01-31T21:33:36Z

(x-posted to appropriate communities)

Save the date, you heretics and heathens!

Feats of fire and fetish await you at the Blasphemy Ball on Saturday, March 10th!
Website: http://www.blasphemyball.com
MySpace: http://www.myspace.com/blasphemyball
Tribe: http://tribes.tribe.net/blasphemyball
Toast your toes at Dante's inferno - SW 3rd & Burnside, Portland OR
Dress yourself in perversion of faith!
$8 with costume, $10 without!
Doors @ 9pm

We've booked PURE Cirkus - http://www.purecirkus.com who will be providing us with a 45 minute show full of fire spinning, sending up sparks with their grinder suits and creeping us out in the most delightful ways with suspension piercing!

The Blasphemy Ball is big EFF YOU to zealoutry, bigotry and oppression. One big night of heresy and hedonism. One night of focused, therapeutic rebellion. Nothing is sacred at the Blasphemy Ball. Shake your fist at whatever you believe. Shake your fist at whatever you don't. We're shaking ours and we want you with us.

DJs Horrid and Sine Qua Non will be spinning dark beats to keep us dancing.

Drop by the confessional to dish to the delectable Domina Betka Schpitz and, if you're lucky, she'll dish out some pleasurable , or painful, or both - penance! ;)

We'll have Tarot, Palm reading and more!

PURE Cirkus will also be performing at the Vampire Ball on the 24th of March! So you get a chance to see them twice!

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Dinner with straight couple

2007-01-24T18:51:17Z

My girlfriend came home from work last night beaming with "good news". "We are going to dinner Saturday night!", she proudly announces.

[ The back story: I'm 43 going on 17 and a total deviant savage who still burns with the 70's punk/hardcore mentality (and I look it!), my girlfriend is 45 going on 80, very butch and about as wild as chewed gum (thankfully she is a sexual deviant but you would never, ever guess looking at her). I moved away from my circle of friends to live her. She is a work-centric, well paid corporate warrior with no social life. I'm, for now, a suburban lesbian housewife living in a subdivision surrounded by straight-with-children-yuppie-types. The last time we were out socially was early January, a corporate dinner, I had a tough time pulling it together to look "respectable" i.e. cover up my tattoos and tame my wild hair. ]

"Dinner is going to be with a woman I met on a business trip who lives in our area [ evil thoughts start in my head ] and her husband [ evil thoughts dissipate ] and their three year old", [ WHAT!? ] she says smiling and excited. "But we have to do it early", she adds.

Who does that? Who invites a lesbian couple, with no children, out to dinner with a three year old? Early, what 4pm? Ugh! EEEWWW - I have no desire to watch a kid drool mashed potatoes and throw a sippy cup all night. I think it's rude to subject us to a child. Get a sitter.

Am I wrong here?

I better get my ass down to the local Barnes & Noble and get friendlier with the other lesbians that I chat up.

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Whoa! Brad Pitt's Marriage Statement

2006-11-15T20:04:49Z

Go Brad!
http://www.theatremama.com/ccount/click.php?id=208

Didn't see that one coming, but thought I would share!

M-

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Safer Sapphic Sex

2006-11-03T06:19:20Z

Strains of Salt N Pepp'a rhyming drift across our aural landscape as the
upbeat tempo of bubble gum rap is heard....

Let's Talk About Sex Ba-by.
Let's talk about You-and-Me
Let;s talk about all the good things
and the bad things
That may be!

Let's talk about Sex!

Okay gals and gaias,

Let's talk about (safer) sex!

Let's talk about the nitty gritty of the opposite of Lesbian Bed Death.

I'm talking about hot-girl on-girl action, posssibly inside, but certainly outside the
confines of a tradtional heteronormative monogamous relationship....

Let's start with a few links but feel free to just pipe up with your own thoughts and opinions.

http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/sex/a/safersex.htm

http://lesbianlife.about.com/cs/sex/a/FAQLesbianSex.htm

http://lesbianlife.about.com/od/lesbiansex/a/tribadismq.htm

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first kiss

2006-11-02T22:34:52Z

when i was in third grade i had this buddy, david janakowski and we were inseparable. one winter during one of the numerous snowball fights we often rained upon unsuspecting neighborhood kids, we were crouched behind our snowfort and he leaned in a kissed me.

i was shocked and i slugged him! i knocked his front tooth out. it was all very strange at the time. i didn't like that he assumed i wanted him to kiss me and there was something very distateful about the whole thing.

on the other hand when lauren, my beest friend around the same time, wanted to play "house" it felt so right. as the wife she insisted she should kiss me hello and goodbye all the time even when weren't technically playing "house".

i didn't slug her! that felt so right.

What was your first kiss like, both with a girl and a boy (if applicable)?

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I've just gone on a sexy clothes buying binge and it's working ...

2006-10-24T05:20:51Z

Yup, it's an attention getter alright - LESBIAN BED DEATH!!! Boyohboy - the pictures that go through MY head at that phrase! You know, some tabloid - the Enquirer maybe? - the picture of the 'dead lesbian' sprawled on the bed ... was it aliens? A jealous lover? Her alter ego (turns out she had 6 different personalities inside her!)? Maybe she choked on her own homophobia ... (OK, so that isn't funny). Anyhow, I've just, as I said in MY headlines, gone on a sexy clothes buying binge - kind of as a result of your topic. ANd it has been REALLY fun. I mean, for now at least, sex is kind of ... in the air most of the time. And becuas we're too busy working (we're truck drivers and we team together) to have much of a chance to act on it, there's a really wonderful tension in the air. Especially when I lean down from the top bunk in my skimpy, skimpy, skimpy see-through t-shirt that shows more than it hides to sweetly say 'honey, could you hand me my ... (substitute whatever you wish, the point is to make her look, duh). FUN FUN FUN ...

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Hello and lesbo bed death continued ...

2006-10-22T21:06:25Z

Hi, just joined. The lesbian bed death thing is interesting, isn't it? I've been married to my wife for 12 years and we are still passionately, lustily, wildly in love (giggle, blush). But you know what? We very rarely actually make love. And it's much less ... long when we do. But we've been petting and caressing and deliberately love-touching a lot more lately and it is FUN. And I think maybe a really good thing. It makes us both feel more loving and more sexy with each other - not just when we're 'doin' the deed' either. And I've started looking at lesbo sex manuals too. After 12 years we've sort of gotten too ... proficient. Efficient. And, of course, there's always some new toy to try too. But I can't help thinking that ANY couple, after 12 years, would be in a similar situation. So what's the point of coining the term 'lesbian bed death'? Did it come from us or some goddessdamned Freudian pyscho? Is it just a politically motivated propagandic term to make us feel like our lust for each other can never last?????
Unhomed

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Lack of Sex in a Relationship

2006-09-27T17:04:35Z

Okay, Rosie recently said on the View that once two women have been together for over a year all they do is spoon. It was so true I almost cried. I've been in a relationship for 5 years, and I am still head over heels in love. But we hardly ever have sex. Maybe once every month or two. Part of the reason that is bad is because I really like sex. But I think the more important issue is the loss of intimacy. There is a kind of intimacy that only sex brings and I really feel we've lost it. I'm afraid we are growing apart. The most we have talked about it is to acknowledge that the lack of sex is a problem. But I'm afraid to say more. It is always me wanting to have sex and she thinks of me as a "sex fiend," which is only partly true. Anyway, I need advice, help? Anyone else have or had this problem? Any advice on how to bring back the sex and intimacy?

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The Meaning of Femme

2006-09-22T22:03:53Z

In a world where stereotypes still rule yet we are expected to defy them all the same, definitions can be difficult to come by. Or rather these definitions are fluid and difficult to pin down. They may not even matter. But I was wondering, what is the meaning of "femme" ? Is femme only one side of a set of opposites--butch/femme? How is it independent? When I envision femme, I envision a female who almost parodies feminitity in her excess. She is costumed and painted. She might look like a greaser's girlfriend, with jet black hair, scarlet lips and 1950s style. Is femme a state of mind/being, or rather, is it an external expression of feminitiy? And how many femmes are attracted to other femmes?

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Queers over 40 tribe

2006-09-12T01:52:31Z

Hey all , just wanted to put this out there.
I have a queers over 40 tribe. Its for men, women, trans etc.
I am trying to get more women in the tribe, to make it more balanced.

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Tegan and Sara on mtvU

2006-09-07T00:59:35Z

Tegan and Sara are being featured as mtvU’s house band. Check out the live performances and videos: http://www.mtvu.com/music/house_band/

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Call for Submissions

2006-08-12T18:30:29Z

Submit to be an artist or panelist/speaker at Peace Out East. Peace Out East (www.peaceouteast.com) is an annual LGBTQ and allies hip hop cultural festival in NYC, Oct 12-15, 2006. We are looking for music, visual, performance artists and panelists/speakers/scholars. Please see www.peaceouteast.com for details. Don't be scared off by HIP HOP, alternative music and performances considered. Include links to music/art or email for a mailing address. Deadline 9/1/06 NO EXCEPTIONS.

submit to: artists@ peaceouteast.com

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NEW Butch/Femme/Trans Social Group

2006-07-10T07:00:11Z

Hi there Tribe-sters

Please excuse the cross-posting (again), but I'm sure that some folks in this community (and their friends) will be interested in this, so.... I'm helping some friends get a new Butch-Femme social group going. Read about us, tell your friends, email the promo on, and come along!

Elixir
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The Butch/Femme/Trans Social Club of Melbourne

To the butches, femmes and transfolk of Melbourne, where are you? It's time to meet up and socialise. It's time for Melbourne to become Australia's capital of butch/femme/trans socialising. We're organising an event (hopefully the first of many) and you're all invited.

Sunday 6 August, 1pm
Dante's
150-156 Gertrude St (cnr. Gertrude & Napier Sts)
Fitzroy

We welcome anyone with a connection to butch/femme/trans identities and dynamics. Come and have lunch with us.

If you've got any queries, please contact Tara via email (subtle_femme@yahoo.com) or phone (0402 280 383). If you could RSVP (by Thursday 3 August), that would also be helpful.

Hope to see you there...

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QUEER INK - a new writing group for queers

2006-07-06T04:45:44Z

[please excuse the cross-posting, but I thought members might be interested in this (or know folks who might be) - please pass it on!]

QUEER INK - a new writing group for queers

Queer? Do you write, or are you interested in writing? Would you like to talk with other people who write? Would you like to get together with others who understand what it’s like to struggle with writer’s block, and who want to know how to get published (like you)? Would you like help with critiquing your work and exploring your writing?

Queer Ink is a new writing group for queers who like to write, whether you call yourself a writer or not. We welcome anyone who identifies as queer and writes. We welcome folks of any gender or sexuality.

Interested? Check us out!

Come join us on the web at
au.groups.yahoo.com/group/queer_ink/

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I'm here and I'm queer but...

2006-06-15T18:19:08Z

I have no idea how to show it without changing the way I look! How do you get lesbians to realise you're gay without wearing a rainbow flag and cutting your hair off?

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funny replies

2006-06-14T18:50:17Z

aaalright, maybe you girls can help me out here. i've recently become more involved in the gay community and have also been meeting a lot more homosexuals by chance than i have in the past. however, i am sick and tired of either being completely ignored by lesbians, being told that i don't look gay, or (the worst of all) having people not believe that i'm queer (w...t...f..). i understand that i don't exactly look like what many consider gay should look like (and to top it all off i'm an absolute putz when it comes to flirting). sooo my question is, does anyone know what i can say besides "yes yes i get that all the time" when someone tells me "you don't look gay/i never would have guessed/yeah right"? i know i'm uber femme looking,. and i'm not exactly raring to cut off my hair and start trying to act like someone i'm not just to get some action. i'm attracted to butches and femmes to about the same degree but i am just so exhausted with feeling like i have to conform to some image to get some lovin or at least some credibility.

sooo any funny/smartass/insightful replies to these comments, or general advice anyone can give me would be greatly appreciated :)

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Guilty Pleasure

2006-06-14T00:50:31Z

so what is your all-time favorite guilty pleasure film - the one that you love but dare not speak it's name. when someone asks you what your favorite film is, and you respond with some indie, artsy or foriegn film, but know that you are fibbing your face off...not to say that i don't love indie, artsy, and foreign films, but there are very few films that i can watch again and again and again and again - mine is...drumroll please
bring it on - i love that movie!! i'm just a sucker for cheerleaders ;)

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dyke fashion? does it exist?

2006-06-10T23:55:24Z

so I'm a fashion designer. I think there's a distinct lack of fashion that is geared specifically to dykes, that bypasses dresses and men's suits and finds a middle ground that is fun, swanky, growly, and comfortable. I'm beginning to develop some pieces based on my own likes and dislikes, but really would like to hear from other dykes what they feel best in when they go to an upscale party, what they hate about suits, what kind of spunk they'd like, etc etc. wanna give me feedback? i promise I'll make the dykes of the world look good...keep an eye out for me!

kate-Ladykiller Apparel Design

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porn

2006-05-14T06:58:56Z

i went out with a friend and a couple of her buddies the other night. one of the women was moving out to san fran this week to start a job scouting and managing talent for a company that works with lots of different internet and dvd porn producers. the work they get into is all female female or male female and no trans folks involved, the exclusion of fags and trans folks didnt thrill me, but hey, its their business. it was really interesting speaking with her, she has lots of friends and acquaintances at various points in the industry, positive experiences, not so positive ones... anyhow
wondering what all you fine folks think about porn, straight, dyke, fag, bi, trans folks, whatever

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Lisa King (RIP: 1960-2006) Memorial, 5/28/06

2006-05-06T19:15:32Z

LISA KING: Memorial for a Poet Warrior
Produced by Friends Of Lisa King

Sunday May 28, 2006 2pm-8pm
FREE Memorial and Celebration @
The Cantab Lounge, 738 Mass Ave. Central Square, Cambridge MA
Spoken Word, Video, Music, Photographs, Slide Shows Open Mic time & Surprises.

Lisa King 1960 — 2006:
Poet, writer, spoken word artist, National Poetry Slam champion and Amazon Super Slam repeat champion, Lisa produced and hosted the first National Queer Slam for the 1995 OUTWRITE conference in Boston MA. A trailblazer of the slam poetry/spoken word movement of the early 90's, Lisa was a punk renegade, activist, rabble rouser, butch dyke, creative, passionate & an inspirational force.

Over 40 people & acts will perfrom Sunday May 28th, including:
Thalia Zedek (Boston MA)
Lucky 57 (Providence RI)
Nancy Asch and Beth Heinberg/Red River Valley (Ashville, NC)
Jaclyn Freidman (Boston)
Emanuel Xavier (NYC)
Cheryl B (NYC)
Felice Shays (NYC)
Ren Jender (Cambridge MA)
Aliza Shapiro (Boston)
Morris Stegosaurus (Cambridge)
Amatul Hannan (Cambridge)
Michael Brown (Cambridge)
Patricia Smith (Boston)
Richard Cambridge (Cambridge)
Gary Hicks (Boston)
Yvette Leaphart
Jessica Rose
Sara Seinberg
Gunner Scott
Eve Stern
Adam Stone
Zilla McCue
Ryk Mcintyre
Deb McKee

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* Info: www.truthserum.org/lisaking
* Audio of Lisa King: users.rcn.com/ngender/lisaking

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IT's hot, get your Hot Pants ready

2006-04-28T21:59:11Z

Hot Pants,
Tonight at the Cat Club, 1190 Folsom
2 dancefloors with dj's:
chelsea starr, mike biggz, melissa and special guest dj saratonin from brownies!
10pm-3am
21+ $6
EXCLUSIVELY for QUEER LADIES
& THEIR MALE GUESTS

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SF Women's Film Festival LBGTQ Cinema 4/19 in SF-Discount Tickets on Sale Now!

2006-04-11T06:10:55Z

Please forward this message to your friends, family
and colleagues.

SFWFF 2006-Women's Film Festival April 19-30
Get Tickets Before They Sell Out!

Get $2.00 off when you purchase tickets in advance at:
http://sfwff.com/SFWFF/Schedule-Tix.html
Promo Code: Festivalfriends06

We are so excited to bring you over 60 films directed
and co-directed by Women. This year's premieres,
features, and short films truly reflect the vitality
of women filmmakers from around the world! We had a
record-number of submissions this year that reveals
the growth of the festival. Our program includes a
wide range of emerging and established talent as well
as unique voices that are so often underrepresented.
The 2006 SF Women's Film Festival is a necessary step
in the advancement of women in cinema. Women directors
should no longer be left out or considered a side note
in our curriculum, film festivals, film history and
the film industry. These women prove that they can
make films, which excite and engage every viewer. For
schedule and to purchase tickets see the link below.
Thank You
Scarlett, SFWFF 06

The SFWFF 06 will take place from April 19-30, 2006
at Zeum, El Rio, SF Women's Building, Parkway Theater
and Minna Gallery.

Get $2.00 off when you purchase tickets in advance at:
http://sfwff.com/SFWFF/Schedule-Tix.html
Promo Code: Festivalfriends06

Opening Night of LGBTQ Cinema
4/19 7pm at El Rio, SF/Admission:$10
Granny Queer - The Late Bloomers (Mamie Queer: Fleuir
Tard) directed by Jacinda Klouwens, (Australia, 2004,
Animation, 7 min.) Granny Queer and her girlfriend
wonder what’s up with their perverted neighbor.

Hung directed by Guinevere Turner (U.S.A, 2005, 12
min) with the help of a magic potion, five lesbian
friends experience a penis for a single day-sunrise to
sunset. The day’s goal is clear, but the means are
more difficult to come by as each puts her best foot
forward to meet a special someone.

The Potluck and Passion directed by Cheryl Dunye
(U.S.A, 1993, 30 min) A lesbian couple plans a
celebration of the year of their passion. It is also
an opportunity for their separate groups of friends to
get to know one another, not; it turns out, with
uniformly happy results.
Dangerouses Kisses directed by Mary Guzman (USA, 2004,
2 min) Kisses get too dangerous it’s time to call in
‘Stop your Stalker.’

Badass Supermama directed by Etang Inyang (U.S.A,
1996, 16 min) is a playful, but questioning personal
exploration of race, gender, sexuality, and adolescent
notions of beauty and representation. These
multi-layered, inter-connected issues are intimately
examined through 1970’s ‘blaxploitation’ movie goddess
Pam Grier and her character, particularly Foxy Brown.

Long Distances directed by Shu-ling Hsien (U.S.A,
2005, 8 min) San Francisco Premiere, An Asian woman is
away from home and involved in a secret relationship.
Long distance calls from her mother evoke ambivalent
feelings.

Wrong Bathroom directed by Shani Heckman (U.S.A,
2005,10 minutes) By going where few documentaries dare
to go, Wrong Bathroom takes us on an intrepid romp
through the unmentionable territory of wash closet
politics through the eyes of people who don't
comfortably fit into the cookie-cutter silhouettes on
the doors of public toilets.

Pup directed by Antonia Kao (U.SA, 2005, 23 min)
follows two out, gay, Christian leather men Master
Skip and Pup Tim – as they prepare to compete in The
Second International Puppy Contest, a leather title
contest for human canines and their handlers.

LESBIAN SHORT FILMS
Transit directed by Kerry Weldon (U.S.A, 2004, 4 min)
Enjoy the simple pleasures of lesbian cruising, subway
style!

Blow directed by Marie Craven (Austrailia, 2002, 7
min) this glossy Aussie short is the sweetest
schoolgirl crush movie you’ve ever seen.

Tina Paulina: Living on Hope Street directed by
Barbara Green/Michelle Boyaner (U.S.A, 2005, 10 min) A
riveting and inspirational documentary portrait of a
lesbian living on the streets of downtown Los Angeles.

Frozen Smile directed by Silas Howard (U.S.A, 2005, 7
min) From By Hook or By Crook writer-director Silas
Howard, this candy-colored comedy serves up a quirky
portrait of a butch and her crazy family.

A Woman Reported directed by Chris J. Russo (U.S.A,
2004, 5 min) Moira Kelly (The West Wing, One Tree
Hill) stars in this gripping thriller about a woman’s
determination to escape a hate crime and return to the
loving arms of her girlfriend. (Inspired by the
Ambrose Bierce short story An Incident At Owl Creek
Bridge.)

Saint Henry directed by Abigail Severance (U.S.A,
2004, 19 min) Ashleigh Ann Wood (Bloodknot) stars as a
girl named Henry who enlists her gay best pal (Max Van
Ville, The Standard) to help search for her father in
this moody and gorgeously produced drama.

The Black Plum directed by Meredyth Wilson (U.S.A,
2005, 15 min) A poignant, evocative fantasy about a
young tomboy’s journey away from her restrictive home.
Stars Kip Pardue. (Loggerheads, Thirteen, But I’m a Cheerleader).

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poly vs mono

2006-03-17T14:01:05Z

i've been serial monogomy girl but now im tired and considering this poly stuff.. ive had this urge before, but didnt have a name for it, or know how to talk about it. i dont know, any comments?

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Queer Festival in Copenhagen in July

2006-02-23T10:44:18Z

Wow, the city of Copenhagen have simply given us our own huge house for ten days in central Copenhagen! And we can do whatever we like! Parties, concerts, exhititions, work shops or just sun bathing in bikinis...

We are already working on it. Some things will be planned ahead, and other things will be left open to whatever happens. But its all going to be pretty DIY and your input is welcome already now...

The website is already up. It's www.queerfestival.org

Please pass on the word to queer activists, artists, musicians and anyone else who might be interested... see you there! :-)

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Human Sexuality Survey

2006-02-09T04:03:22Z

Hey all-
My friend is doing a survey as part of a study on human sexuality. She needs as many people to take the survey as possible for it to be more meaningful. If you wouldn't mind taking a few minuites to complete the survey that would be great!!!

go to:

http://www.psychdata.com/

go to survey # 10011, password: 2351

Any questions or comments on the survey can be sent to cschultz@alaskapacific.edu

Thanks guys!!

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playlists

2006-01-16T06:38:23Z

just joined the tribe
wondering what folks are listening to lately
for me its been distillers, juliette and the licks, ani d 94-00, the gossip, bob mould and pj harvey

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SUBMISSIONS WANTED - anti-racist feminist publication

2006-01-11T01:56:08Z

*** please forward widely ***

thirdspace - an anti-racist feminist zine - is looking for submissions for
our next issue (volume 24 number 2). The theme is "Growing Up" -
interpret how you wish - and submissions are due by FRIDAY FEBRUARY 3rd
2006.

some possible topics (just to float some ideas out there):
- what about your past has most influenced who you are today?
- how do you define growing up?
- how does growing up interact with your experiences of
sexuality/gender/class/race/ability?
- how has your politic changed with the passage of time?
- the list will grow according to your submissions...

we'd also love reviews of relevant books/films!
and howsabout some recipes for food that just takes you back to childhood?

anyone from anywhere may submit.

thirdspace accepts comics, poetry, short fiction, artwork, rants, creative
non-fiction, book/film/music reviews, drawings, photography, graphics,
essays: whatever you've got, we can probably use it... as long as it is
anti-racist, feminist, queer- and trans-friendly.

To submit:

email the file(s) to thirdspaceuvic@riseup.net

OR

mail to thirdspace, UVic, Coast Salish Territory, P.O. Box 3035 Stn CSC,
Victoria, BC, Canada, V8W 3P3

article submissions should be no more than 1500 words. artwork should be
printable in black and white. please include contact info and a 3-4
sentence biography to be included with your piece.

we reserve the right to edit and submission does not guarantee
publication.

our next issue: GROWING UP
submissions due: FRIDAY FEBRUARY 3rd

please contact us if you have any questions :)

thirdspaceuvic@riseup.net

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thirdspace

UVic's anti-racist feminist publication

SUB B107a, University of Victoria
P.O. Box 3035 Stn CSC
Victoria, BC V8W 3P3
Coast Salish Territory
Phone: 250-721-8353
Fax: 250-472-4379
Email: thirdspaceuvic@riseup.net
http://mail-man.ca/mailman/listinfo/thirdspace-l

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holidays with the gf's fam...

2005-12-18T08:51:47Z

truth is, i don't really like christmas. i love my family, but our holiday celebrations are punctuated with too much drama, anger, and tears for it to be worth my while to hike all the way across the country to participate. i prefer visiting them in the fall or spring, when everyone's more relaxed. i like spending christmas alone, hanging out by myself or with other folks who don't celebrate it either.

but my romantic associate loves christmas. she's leaving town next week to spend most of december with her family. in her mother's words, the idea of my being alone (or without family, i guess, since i wouldn't be completely alone) on december 25th is "horrid".

to make a long story short, i'm going; will be arriving in their city on december 22nd, so that we still have time to do some christmas baking together.

am i a jerk for not being stoked?
should i just be counting my blessings that i have a partner whose family is *almost* okay with her dating me?

she's excited and i'm not, and i feel bad about it.

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Obscenity Prosecutions

2005-12-08T15:51:45Z

Alberto Gonzales has a long list of people he's going to censor.

And this is why TRIBE is now censoring your civil rights....

Wave of Obscenity Prosecutions Leads to Closure and Self-Censorship of Websites

Contact:
Susan Wright, NCSF Spokesperson
(917) 848-6544

October 20, 2005
October 20, 2005 - Attorney General Alberto Gonzales has announced that his office will specifically target "bestiality, urination, defecation, as well as sadistic and masochistic behavior" in pursuing new obscenity prosecutions. The Department of Justice began recruiting in late July for a new anti-obscenity squad to pursue obscenity prosecutions, and the FBI announced in September that it was forming an anti-obscenity task force to crack down on pornography.

Any website that has content containing "bestiality, urination, defecation, as well as sadistic and masochistic behavior" should be forewarned that prosecution is possible. Additionally, Federal sentencing guidelines state that any obscenity- related punishment should be "enhanced for sadomasochistic material."

Forty people and businesses have been convicted of obscenity since 2001, and 20 additional indictments are pending according to Andrew Oosterbaan, chief of the Justice Department's child exploitation and obscenity section. There were only four obscenity prosecutions during the eight years of the Clinton administration.

Though adult content is, in theory, protected by the First Amendment, only a jury can determine if a work is obscene or not under the subjective set of standards that vary from one community to the next established in the 1973 Supreme Court ruling, Miller v. California.

Text is not inherently more protected than images when it comes to obscenity charges. The erotic fiction website Red Rose Stories is facing obscenity charges after federal agents raided the owner's home on October 3rd, taking computer equipment and diskettes that contained all of their files and site information.

The Department of Justice is clearly hoping that websites will self-censor or remove their content entirely. Midori, a fetish model and SM educator who teaches classes on bondage, has removed her website, BeautyBound.com, citing fear of obscenity prosecution. The owner of three SM websites, known as GrandPa DeSade, removed his websites from the Internet. SuicideGirls.com also announced they are self-censoring their materials over concerns about a possible obscenity crackdown.

Recent prosecutions of obscenity on websites include: A former police officer in Lakeland, Florida, was arrested on October 7th on over 300 obscenity-related charges for the sexual content posted on his website. The same day, webmaster Chris Wilson, owner of amateur website NowThatsFuckedUp.com, was raided on charges of obscenity by a local Sheriff s office.

"I think it's crucial for us to stand up for consensual sadomasochism and other alternative sexual practices," says Barbara Nitke, fetish photographer. "This is a battle worth fighting, and I hope everyone who can will just censor out the most provocative material from their websites, but keep them up. I also appeal to the lawyers in our community to help us find ways to keep people's websites up."

Barbara Nitke and the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF) have proactively challenged federal obscenity laws as applied to the Internet, arguing that obscenity laws based on "local community standards" are too vague and their existence burdens protected speech, resulting in self-censorship due to the fear of prosecution. A district court three-judge panel in New York ruled that while Nitke and the NCSF members were at risk, more proof was needed that obscenity laws cause otherwise protected speech to be restrained through acts of self-censorship. The case is currently on appeal to the United States Supreme Court.

"The effect of silencing alternative lifestyle speech was exactly why we brought the lawsuit," says attorney John Wirenius, lead counsel for NCSF. "The self- censorship we are seeing underscores the importance of supporting our ongoing obscenity challenge."

To contribute to the appeal of the CDA lawsuit, go to: www.ncsfreedom.org/donations.htm

Barbara Nitke - www.barbaranitke.com

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A project of NCSF and the NCSF Foundation

The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom is a national organization committed to creating a political, legal, and social environment in the United States that advances equal rights of consenting adults who practice forms of alternative sexual expression. NCSF is primarily focused on the rights of consenting adults in the SM-leather-fetish, swing, and polyamory communities, who often face discrimination because of their sexual expression.

National Coalition for Sexual Freedom
822 Guilford Avenue, Box 127
Baltimore, MD 21202-3707
410-539-4824
media@ncsfreedom.org
www.ncsfreedom.org

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Public AFFECTION!!

2005-11-29T08:51:51Z

@aol.com

Inside of a perfect moment,I imagine a delicious
dream.
For an instant things are not all,as they now
apairantly seem.
For this moment time,,life stands still,people,ocean
and air.
YET,I am allowed to kiss you and hold you with but one
care.
As if time stands still for us,so we might share our
embrace.
Not hidden in the dark but out in this glorious light
of day.
As frozen,silent society,cannot see our loves true
voice.
To love another woman,with full heart and souls
choice.
You might not be so very nervous,to show your own
love.
To the woman you promise your heart to,given Godddess
from above.
I imagine that time stands still,for this moment we
can share.
More than ever an embrace,to remind me how much we
care.
This fantasy warms my blood,to dream we might feel
found.
A time a space where we ,are not afraid to make
passions sounds.
I can touch you where ever we are,unihibited,sensual
sweet.
To hold their true loves hand,while walking down the
street.
You would not stop or worry,if anyone would notice or
see.
All of time would stand still,if you wrap your arms
around me.
In this moment I realise,I would kiss you here,now and
forever.
If you could feel at peace with me ,my lover,my friend
together.
In public,private,in light or dark,I love you!With all
my heart!
In ocean on land in air you see,
with you,,
time for me .......starts!

Yours,
Luna

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SUBMISSIONS WANTED - anti-racist feminist publication

2005-11-14T19:08:36Z

*** please forward widely ***

thirdspace - an anti-racist feminist zine - is looking for submissions for
our next issue. The theme is "Sex & Sexuality" - interpret how you wish -
and submissions are due by WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 23rd @ 4pm.

some possible topics (just to float some ideas out there):
- what turns you on?
- what turns you off?
- defining sexuality
- interactions between sexuality and gender/class/race/abilities
- sexual learning
- changing sexuality
- sex, sexuality and activism
- the list will grow according to your submissions...

anyone from anywhere may submit!

thirdspace accepts comics, poetry, short fiction, artwork, rants, creative
non-fiction, book/film/music reviews, drawings, photography, graphics,
essays whatever you've got, we can probably use it... as long as it is
anti-racist, feminist, queer- and trans-friendly.

To submit:

email the file(s) to thirdspaceuvic@riseup.net

OR

mail to thirdspace, UVic, Coast Salish Territory, P.O. Box 3035 Stn CSC,
Victoria, BC, Canada, V8W 3P3

article submissions should be no more than 1500 words. artwork should be
printable in black and white. please include contact info. we reserve the
right to edit and submission does not guarantee publication.

our next issue: SEX & SEXUALITY
submissions due: WEDNESDAY NOVEMBER 23rd

please contact us if you have any questions :)

thirdspaceuvic@riseup.net

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thirdspace

UVic's anti-racist feminist publication

SUB B107a, University of Victoria
P.O. Box 3035 Stn CSC
Victoria, BC V8W 3P3
Coast Salish Territory
Phone: 250-721-8353
Fax: 250-472-4379
Email: thirdspaceuvic@riseup.net
mail-man.ca/mailman/list.../thirdspace-l

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Cool Danish Electro Dyke

2005-11-12T21:01:23Z

Check out this cool chick:

www.nosnetrom.net

I'm listeling to her fantastic new album right now, while getting drunk before seeing her live at Ladyfest tonight. Also look forward to her next album, as her new stuff is a lot more punk/guitar/RiotGrrl influenced...

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Spread the word?

2005-11-09T20:39:29Z

We all need to connect somehow and Tribe kicks ass!!

Thanks for reading and hopefully you’ll take a look at my profile, check out my band (www.thunderpussyforever.com) and help me spread the word!

We’ll be live at MetroOakland on November 10th, come along if you can. If you can’t make it a recommend to others who are in the music and sex positive world (and linking to me as a Tribe friend) would be appreciated.

Thanks!

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RiotGrrl Tribe Started!

2005-10-16T18:54:29Z

okay, so i launched a RiotGrrl tribe last week, but it needs people to work. So anyone interested in the many facets of the RiotGrrl movement should go check it out.

http://www.tribe.net/riotgrrl

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Riot Grrl

2005-10-05T03:22:22Z

Hello peoples, I just joined this tribe and I guess I'm introducing myself. My main reason for joining this tribe was to discuss riot grrl and I couldn't find a single tribe that's actually dedicated to it. :( So maybe I'll just start a topic here. What is everyone's favorite Riot Grrl record?
Mine are
-Bikini Kill's S/T record
-Bratmobile's "Pottymouth."
They're obvious picks but they have killer pop sensibilities to them while not conceding a single thing to mainstream patriarchal culture.

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Honolulu Dykes

2005-09-07T05:52:04Z

So I'm in Honolulu Hawaii and I haven't found the Dyke Culture yet.... I've found the gay boy culture and the gay bars, but no women...

Where are you???!!!! ;P

Really - any clues would be great ! ;)

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Like new friends

2005-09-05T16:12:55Z

Hi all im Kirstie 41. Like to meet new female friends. Thanks

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The Big Question

2005-08-03T17:00:12Z

Hey Dykes,

Here's my latest project.... I created a new interview type blog recently called, "The Big Question".

Basically, every day I will post a question and people can put their answer to the question in the "comments" section.

Come answer a question or two yourself, you might be surprised where it leads you....

You can visit the blog at http://bigquestion2day.blogspot.com and might add it to your list of favorites so you can check back each day for the new question.

Thanks for your help in making it successful!
Sublime

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looking....

2005-08-03T06:50:44Z

new to tribe, looking for other bi girls, check profile, if interested please send a message!

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talking to the ex

2005-08-02T16:38:54Z

Hey all...so I wanted to know your opinions....Is staying friends with your ex a mistake? What are your experiences in that department?

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Sexual Experiences and Emotion in Women Results

2005-06-15T05:26:47Z

I recruited research participants from this chat/discussion group several months ago for a study on Sexual Experiences and Emotion in Women. I want to thank the women who took part in this research. The study is now complete. If you have further questions or comments you may contact me at skycladgrrl@yahoo.com.
Thank You
Tera Beaber

Here is a summary of the study’s goals and results:

Goals and Results of the Study of Sexual Experiences and Emotion in Women:
The goal of this research was to study the relationship between sexual functioning and anxiety in two groups: lesbians and heterosexual women. One interest was in investigating whether there are differences in anxiety and sexual functioning between heterosexual women and lesbians. Additionally, based on prior results, I hypothesized that anxiety is negatively correlated with sexual functioning among both heterosexual women and lesbians.
Participants were 42 women in lesbian relationships and 78 women in heterosexual relationships recruited through announcements posted on internet sites. Women over the age of 18 who were in a monogamous romantic relationship for at least 6 months were eligible to participate. The average age for lesbians was 30.05 years and the average age for heterosexuals was 28.77 years. The majority of participants were Caucasian, (76.2% of lesbians and 78.2% of heterosexuals), with smaller proportions of American Americans, Asian Americans/Pacific Islanders, and Hispanics. The average length of the current relationship was 40.13 months for lesbians and 38.91 months for heterosexuals.
One of the questionnaires used in this research measured anxiety. I found that lesbians and heterosexuals reported similar levels of anxiety. Another questionnaire that I used asked for reports of sexual functioning. I found that lesbian participants reported higher levels of arousal and orgasm than heterosexual participants, but that the groups did not differ in reports of desire, lubrication, satisfaction, pain, or overall sexual functioning. Additionally, I found that the various aspects of sexual functioning correlate with one another differently for lesbians and for heterosexuals. When I analyzed the relationship between anxiety and sexual functioning, I found different results in the lesbian and heterosexual groups. Among lesbian women, anxiety was not related to any aspect of sexual functioning. However, among heterosexual participants higher anxiety was associated with higher reports of pain and lower reports of orgasm, lubrication, and overall sexual functioning. In other words, the results suggest that anxiety is negatively related to sexual functioning among heterosexuals, but that it is unrelated to sexual functioning among lesbians. Again, I want to express my thanks to the women who participated in my research. My findings were intriguing, and I am looking forward to conducting more extensive research on this topic in the future.

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womens music festival in california

2005-06-15T03:30:55Z

not an ad, i am just excited about this festival!
http://campbettycampout.com
July 22-24, 2005
Camp Betty is a music festival and campout celebrating the music, arts and creativity of women.
This first annual event is open to all and features three days of music, comedy, arts, film, vendors and workshops in an amazing outdoor environment at Black Oak Ranch, three hours north of San Francisco in Laytonville, CA.
please join my tribe so more people can find out about this festival! it is going to be awesome! http://campbetty.tribe.net/

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Whatever happened to Tribe8???

2005-06-15T03:29:58Z

What has happened to Tribe8? Where are they? Are they touring? I know the lineup has changed somewhat, but are they still in existance?

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Dykes Don't Write

2005-06-14T17:02:13Z

EOM

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Gay Days Orlando

2005-05-28T15:04:12Z

Is anyone here from FL? Seems like most of you are from the West Coast. I'm driving up to Gay Days Orlando next weekend and I'm wondering if anyone else here is going.

KC

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